EXPECTANT PARENT Q&A
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What if I change my mind before my baby is born?
> If you decide that adoption is not right for you, your social worker will revisit your options and help you
find resources to parent your child. By law, you are not able to sign any relinquishment paperwork prior to
the birth of your child. Once you have signed relinquishment paperwork, you have a limited amount of
time to change your adoption plan. Prior to the the State of California acknowledging the
relinquishment paperwork, you have the right to change your mind about placing your child for adoption.
After your paperwork is acknowledged by the State, it becomes more difficult for you to change your
mind about the adoption plan. At Chrysalis House, we make sure that you are absolutely comfortable
with your adoption plan before you sign any paperwork to make the adoption final.
Can I receive financial help?
> Yes. We will help you locate local resources for many of your needs, and we are able to assist with
pregnancy related expenses during the 'confinement period,' which is usually the last trimester of
pregnancy. You can receive assistance for pregnancy-related expenses such as housing,
food, clothing, and utilities. Financial help can be requested for any bill or cost that would cause stress to
the birthmother during her pregnancy.
Do I need the father's permission?
> In most cases, the consent of the birthfather is not needed for an adoption plan, though the State of
California requires that he be notified about an adoption plan. The rights of a birthfather are based on
his legal relationship to the child and the level of support he provided to the birthmother during her
pregnancy. We will determine what type of legal rights he may have and then work to handle his portion
of the case. If you do not want to have any contact with the birthfather or inform him about the adoption
plan, we can do that for you.
What if I don't want to choose an adoptive family?
> In those cases, we would ask about any desires you have for the adoptive family, and we would match
you with a waiting family.
Can I get updates about my child?
> Yes. You have the right to request an open adoption, which would allow you to continue to have contact
with your child and the adoptive family. You can request to have updates sent to you, or even have visits
on an on-going basis. At Chrysalis House, we respect your right to have an open adoption and we ask the
adoptive families to adjust to the level of contact that you are requesting.
I used drugs or alcohol during my pregnancy. Can I still make an adoption plan?
> Yes. Even if there is prenatal drug or alcohol use, we will still be able to match you with a family that
would give your child a loving and permanent home. Each potential adoptive family is asked about their
level of comfort regarding prenatal drug and alcohol use. As long as you are honest with us about
what/when you used, we'll match you with a family that is open to the exposure your child has
How can I be sure my child is going to a loving and stable family?
> Each of our adoptive families go through an extensive process that prepares them to be adoptive parents.
They go through a background screening, submit financial information, complete a medical exam, take
parenting classes, and are interviewed extensively as part of their home study process. If you would like
more information about the process for adoptive parents, we would be happy to explain it in further
Will I have to work with CPS?
> No. A birth parent making a voluntary plan does not have to have any contact with Child Protective
Services (CPS). Since you are choosing to make an adoption plan, CPS is not involved. If your child
tests positive for drugs at birth, CPS may be called by the hospital staff, but they would not take
custody of your child if you followed through with a voluntary adoption plan. You have the right to make
an adoption plan even if your child tests positive for drugs at birth, and even if you did not make the plan
before your child was born. If CPS becomes involved in your case and you wish to voluntarily relinquish
your child, immediately request to contact an agency that can help you complete a voluntary adoption
Can I make an adoption plan if I didn't contact you prior to the birth?
> Yes. You have the right to make a voluntary plan of adoption at any time. Some women work with our
agency during their pregnancy, while others contact us months or even years after their child is born.
Many women do not begin the adoption planning process before they arrive at the hospital; in these
cases, a social worker can meet you there as soon as possible to give you support and discuss your